A brilliant life


Three years ago I was in ninth grade and I got an opportunity to attend a session by Andrew cope on “A Brilliant Life”. At the end of the session I managed to get a book by chance on of course the same subject by Mr. Cope himself. As far as the description of the book is concerned, it is a small but a life changing book, only if you abide by the rules it states. In this write up, I will be making a modest attempt to tell you all about the book’s content and the ways in which it guided me.

There was once a young person (consider that person to be “you”) who got by in life. Everything in his life was average. He did alright at school but he was a teenager and it is a known fact that “teenagers moan” about life being unfair to them. Unfair here means that they’ve got homework, coursework, exams and school. And everyone struggles to get out of bed, don’t they? You see, there is nothing lazier than a mortal. Like most teenagers, his negativity or pessimism had become a habit. The turning point came in when he thought about these “negative” habits and began to change them. For this he learned some stuff- and became brilliant. He learned five life changing rules which the person termed it as the “Big five”. The good part was that he did not just learn the big five… he did them. Isn’t that amazing?

So here are those five life changing rules:

*First he chose his attitude. He actually chose to be positive, which was one hell of a task as people around him weren’t, especially in maths. Everyone else as usual continued to moan that life wasn’t fair but the person was not moaning anymore. He realized that school was an opportunity to get on in life. Consequently, he would combat it with a ‘can do’ attitude.

* Next, he learned that when he was positive, good things happened to him. The world was a great place to live in. Lessons were easier. Maths could be real fun. Imagine! Plus, when he was positive he smiled more. It was weird, but he made others feel brilliant too but when he felt rubbish, so did those around him which is spooky. He’d stumbled upon the second of the ‘Big five’. He realized that he was having an enormous impact on those around him- much bigger than he’d ever expected. Moreover, he could choose which impact he had. ‘Positive’ or ‘negative’? It was a tricky decision but he concluded it was the most powerful choice in the world. (He did wonder why nobody else seemed to be making the correct choice, but he didn’t let others’ negative attitude stop him/her from feeling brilliant).

*Thirdly, he set himself some huge goals. Really big ones that were frightening at first. So he broke them down into little steps and started making them happen. Surprisingly enough, a lot of his goals were dependent on how much effort he puts into his school work. He never gave up on his goals- even when things got hard, which was often. This hardness that he faced was due to peer pressure, negativity, laziness and boredom. To add he learned something really interesting. He discovered that even when he did his level best to be brilliant, things still went wrong and sometimes was rock hard. And he could still end up feeling rubbish. It was valid what teenagers said … life wasn’t always fair!

*He did not have many bad days as he learned the fourth point of the ‘Big Five’.  He had ‘bouncebackability’. He’d worked out that an average lifespan would give him 4,000 weeks. This was certainly a big number, but it made him realize that how precious time was. He decided life was too short to waste being anything less than brilliant. When he caught being negative he thought about his 4,000 weeks and immediately bungeed back to being positive. He practised until this became his usual way of thinking.

*He now had four out of the ‘Big five’. He had chosen to be positive, he understood the impact he had, he set big goals for himself and he had bouncebackability. But the last rule was very essential. The final realization was that he had to take responsibility for his life. For teenagers, this was the hardest thing to do! He noticed others blaming their rubbish life on their teachers and relationships and the fact that they did not own the latest designer clothes. As a matter of fact, the more he listened, the more he heard teenagers blaming everyone but themselves. ‘My teachers are rubbish.’ I’ve got a lot of homework.’ ‘My mum nags me.’ ‘My dad makes me come home early, it’s just not fair. ‘Science is so monotonous.’ He noticed it was always someone else who was the culprit. He smiled. He was certain about the fact that his/her happiness wasn’t really about designer clothes. It was only about the choices he made and the positive attitude he carried with him. He’d taken personal responsibility for changing himself. He didn’t blame others any more. He understood that it was about taking charge of his life. He wanted results, not excuses. So he made a massive breakthrough. He stopped thinking about the ‘Big five’ and started doing them instead. In the beginning it was difficult because the energy vampires were everywhere. They excelled at being negative. The energy vampires were brilliant at sucking the positive out of each and every person. They had a point, you know. The weather is always rubbish, isn’t it? So is the traffic. Then there’s school and heaps of homework. And everything else.What a nightmare!                                                                                                                                             He practised being positive, even with energy vampires (he was a very brave young man). He noticed that the sun shone loads. And the cars sometimes moved at 100 mph. And homework was easier, if you did your best. And other things were great too. He tried hard. He was happy even when it rained. There’s nothing to be upset about weather you see. And the more he tried the easier it became. As a result his life changed for the better. He actually wanted to get out of bed. After all, he had goals to achieve. Very soon he became brilliant. Other people noticed his cheerfulness and positive outlook on life. Teachers and parents noticed. His grandparents were very proud. Even his friends noticed. But he noticed it the most. And those around him felt brilliant too.

He got some great grades and a worthwhile career. And lived to a ripe old age (well it was beyond 4000 weeks). He smiled a lot. His wrinkles were happy. And he inspired a lot of people, especially his children. Who turned out brilliant too.

So, this was the ‘Big five’. After reading this book I became much more optimistic about life than I was and this book gave me an urge to live and do well in life. It made me understand that life is all about living and making it right. I am sure it will help you all and make you better people.

Ciao and watch out for my next post.


Money- An overvalued resource


“Simple, genuine goodness is the best capital to found the business of this life upon. It lasts when fame and money fail, and is the only riches we can take out of this world with us.”
― Louisa May Alcott, Little Men


Money has always been one resource over which people have fought, killed and betrayed for nothing but to acquire it. They did it in the past and they are still doing it, least realising the fact that there are things in this world that are of greater value than -“”money””-. During inflation the value of money might reduce but the value of these -“”things””-, which are of greater value, will never be reduced.  They fail to realize that there are people in this world who have nothing: but at the same time have everything. They fail to realise what actually -“”richness””- is. They fail to realise how poor the rich are! This article will make a humble attempt to throw light on all these points and a few more.

On one hand, the poor have always been looked down upon by the rich. They are the have nots, who hardly have any material possessions. They do not have huge homes or cars but they are the richest. Their richness lies in their goodness and welcoming attitude. For instance, I went to a poor person’s home and not only did they provide me with food, but with a chair to sit on, and every possible thing that they could give me even though they had little left for themselves. It was only that day that I understood what richness was, and, how misunderstood the term is. On the other hand, we have the -“”rich””- or the “haves” who apparently have all objects of luxury and comfort, but the irony is that they actually have nothing. I use a term as strong as -“”nothing””- because they are not sharing. There is no point living in a huge house, having a variety of cars and donning branded clothes every day, which certainly exceed your needs when people around you do not even have a house to hide their heads or clothes to cover their bodies. The rich are actually an “unaware selfish bunch of brats”. (I do not say the entire community of the -“”have’s””- are like this. If it was so, the doomsday wouldn’t have been far.)

I believe that each day I live is to only realise that whatever material possessions I will earn throughout my life must be given to the -“”have not’s””-.  Each day I realize how foolish the world is which does not see anything beyond money. Richness is not just about acquiring dollars, pounds, rupees or yen. Richness is about how much you can share with those in need, how much you can do for others, and how you make sure that when you grow financially everyone around grows with you. It is also about the amount of love you get from the needy, I wish I am able to. I wish many are able to. On the contrary we must try to get love of this kind because there is so much of disparity all around us. For instance, a poor child asked me for water, and at that moment I did not have even a drop of water to give him. Yet another child was having no slippers to protect his feet (his feet were bleeding), while some were without clothes. There is so much pain all around. Not to forget that the pain was due to insensitive people. I call them insensitive, because they could have helped but they chose not to. On top of that, they treated them in a highly unjust manner. I was helpless but they were cruel. Remorse had overpowered me as I remember the most heart-rendering moment of my life. Plus, I was unable to help them, but there is always a second chance to correct yourself. I will correct my mistake by helping them to whatever extent I can, till my last breath. Moreover, we all should help them. After reading this, you all must help such people. Spend a little less on luxuries and save money for them. Give most of your material possessions to them when you cross a certain age bar. I am sure your children will do the same and continue this legacy of giving up what they have. Furthermore, walk the extra mile and cry with them. Keep yourself in their place and try to understand them. Be inspired by the good people around you. All this will encourage you to do more and more for them.

One more point I would like to throw light on, is: Each one of us by heart is the richest person around; each of one us is rich in social terms. For instance, I am the richest girl in the world as I have a beautiful family, I am a good human being, I have great friends – and I have never harmed anyone. I have always wanted that good things happen to -“”everyone””-. I have everything: the courage to fight my battle, without even a bit of harm to anyone, and fight for others too! I have knowledge and love. I must gather more of it in the course of time. I am the richest girl indeed. Similarly, you just need to identify what make’s you the richest person around. So, share, believe and spread love.

Keep on giving and do not over-value money.

Ciao with my next post.